“An Unplugged Wedding”
Sure, it’s as naff as a phrase can be but there is plenty of value in gently insisting that friends and family enjoy the wedding without having the urge to photograph every single minute of it with their cameras or phones, there’s generally a zealous type who will spend much of the day with a screen up to their nose. I find that it has become a very bad habit with some as they often spend the duration of the ceremony gazing into that small handheld screen recording, in a shaky manner, the bride and groom tying the knot yet with several heads in the way and the odd pillar. Or even staring into a large iPad screen doing the same thing, I don’t know which is worse. Though looking at a guest whose face is covered with a rectangle box does look amusing at times, and I have plenty of pictures to prove it.
Of course it’s one thing taking pictures or constantly filming the event, the next logical step for some is make sure it gets onto social media in double time. “Look at me! I’m at a wedding!” It seems being at the wedding is secondary to actually telling your 316 Facebook friends where you are and maybe for a handful of likes. It is now epidemic with some people, who cannot take their faces away from their phones and posting online, but surely the worst part is showing the bride and groom the picture they have posted. An unflattering, blurry picture where the bride or groom look confused as to what they are looking at and it could be anybody… I just don’t get it.
A person like myself is hired to do that job, to record the days events, to document the wedding for posterity. And it’s gas, often somebody will ask, and it is always about them, “did you take a picture of me? Show me that picture” in a pretend shocked manner, and just looking for that instant rush, which is a recent social media driven phenomena, but what’s the point? No one person will see what I have photographed until the dust has settled and the images are primed and ready for sharing and with the bride and groom first. In my opinion, no couple should be subjected to having their wedding “live” on social media and hence why some will inform their guests that this is not cool with them. I once seen cards scattered all over the tables with all the social media logos on them and a message to not share, I thought that was a brilliant idea, often a board will be used hinting at the same thing.
I was a guest at a wedding a few months back, and somebody came up to me and said, in a rather smug manner, “Philip, you’re meant to be a wedding photographer, and you brought no camera?” And I replied, in a rather smug manner, “Today I’m merely a guest and I’ll actually just talk to other guests instead as I sip on some Prosecco”. I can recall a lot from that wedding and I have no blurry and downright confusing camera phone images to prove it otherwise.