A few years back I was sitting down with a potential client and I had three similar books, the only major difference was that each book had its own wedding, so I had presented three weddings in exactly the same style book, and this was something I did on purpose, so while the books were the same in format, and number of images, layout (just pictures, no frilly nonsense to distract) etc the only difference was that they contained different weddings. And I recall the client said “I prefer that one, the one in the middle and that’s what I want my wedding to be” I found this interesting as I felt that the person looking at the work perhaps thought that I had photographed that wedding in a different way to the others. I then explained that perhaps this set of wedding pictures resonated more and perhaps there were traits that were identifiable, familiar even, so this allowed me to pour over in greater detail the actual way that each day is recorded and documented in a set of photographs.
I know that some photographers sell their photography like they are selling burger deal meals (Have it the way you want it, your way! Extra Cheese! No problem!) But you can’t have it the way you want it, why? Because it opens up a can of worms, predetermining the way your wedding may be can, in my view, feel rigid, and it is too boring to actual expect exactly what may happen blow by blow. Allowing a documentary wedding photographer like myself to photograph your day as it flows with all its idiosyncrasies, fleeting moments and vitality coming through is what should be important, when the dust settles then let’s see what happened, often somebody will have an idea of what the day may be like, but in my opinion this is over thinking the situation where it may just be better to not have any expectations. There is much joy in then sitting back and enjoying the pictures when they land. In my opinion the day should reveal what the guests, friends, family at each individual wedding are all about, no cookie cutter approach, no carbon copy of another. And a candid style of photography with somebody who knows what they are doing has the ability to sum up what the day was really about, ebbing and flowing, watching the story build, having your wedding day documented in a candid manner in my view will reveal the true nature of the day, No bells and whistles, no messing about just pictures that are reflective of you wedding day. It’s simple stuff.